In my ladies Bible study last night we talked briefly about how we often try to act like we have it all together.
We want to seem as if...
we have perfect children
our house is always spotless
we always cook nutritious hot meals for our families
we are perfectly organized
our hair and makeup are always perfect
our homeschool is completely successful
we never yell at our children
we don't lose sleep over finances
and we never, never, ever, get stressed.
We have it ALL together!
Why do we do this?
I think in our nature to want people to respect us and think highly of us. We don't want them to see our weaknesses, only our strengths. I think this is especially true of moms, and maybe even more so of homeschool moms. Are we really doing anyone a favor though, by making them think we have it all together? Perhaps we might be better served by letting our weaknesses show ~ just a bit. And perhaps we might serve others better, by showing them that they don't have to be perfect.
So, here's my confession...
I do not have it all together!
I wake up each day and cringe at the size of my laundry piles. I do cook healthy & nutritious meals for my family, but not every single day. I might seem organized, but as you can see in the above photo, it's a struggle. Every minute of the day, it's a struggle! I do lose my cool with my children. I seldom wear makeup, and am lucky if I get to brush my hair on days when I'm not leaving the house. Our homeschool has problems and some days I wonder if I'm really cut out for this afterall. I DO lose sleep over our finances. And yes, I do get stressed (I'm just better at hiding it!).
My kids on the other hand, they are perfect. Aren't yours?
Ok, so maybe they don't behave perfectly all the time, but I love them anyway!



Amen Sister! I don't have it all together either. I strive to have it together, but somehow it just never happens. I call it Superchristianwifeandhomeschoolmom Syndrome.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this, it was great to know I am not the only one with piles of laundry and who often leaves the house without makeup. I also sometimes yell at my kids and I have microwaved many a meal. There's more, but I don't want to look too bad. {{snort}}
Great post. Don't blow my image of you. Love you, Mom.
ReplyDeleteFabulous and appreciated post, April! We "newbies" need to hear that all is just as chaotic in other homeschooling households as it is in our own! One day, one hour, one minute at a time, right?!
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THANK GOODNESS, it's not just me then!!! I really loved the post, well said. I feel like I constantly stand just on the edge between utter chaos and perfect serenity, sometime slightly more one way than the other but still on the edge.
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